In my 25+ years of experience working as a psychologist with gay men and relationships, I’ve noticed that despite being awesome guys with a lot to offer a potential partner, many gay men stay single for way too long because they haven’t learned the necessary tools for a real relationship. Or some, after having had the same partner for years, have forgotten how to connect and build intimacy with a man who’s an appropriate fit and on the same page about wanting to settle down. 🧔🏽‍♂️🧔🏽‍♂️ In today’s video I’ll go over the essential tools gay men need to possess in order to become #ProperlyPartnered.

Romance and dating in the gay world can be pretty challenging. We have to deal with issues like outness, masculinity, physical appearance, past trauma, false expectations, and stigmatization from both the outside and within our own community. It’s a wonder to me how some gay men ever grow to be able to let in another man emotionally after some of the shit we’ve been through. 🗣 That being said, we gays can and do heal, recover, and learn to build healthy, loving, nurturing relationships. 🗣 In this video, I list some of the myths I hear all the time from gay men about romance and dating that just are not true. The sooner we get these false, limiting beliefs out of our heads, the better. 🗣 If you'd like to discuss your own belief system about relationships, dating, and sex, send me a DM and let's determine the right next move for you on your relationship journey.

If you’re a single gay man who wants to be in a relationship but has had difficulty meeting a man who’s a right, proper fit for you, despite meeting men on a regular basis and being unsuccessful at trying to establish a connection, then I have GREAT NEWS for you. ✅ YOU are not the problem. There is nothing wrong with you—or so bad, or terrible, or ugly 👹 (I hope)—that makes it so nobody wants to be with you, or that you can’t find a guy you like who also likes you, or who’s looking for the same things you are. ✅ In my experience as a relationship therapist with single gay men, the problem almost ALWAYS lies in their approach (beliefs, thoughts, and expectations about what love should feel like, who our potential partner should be, and what should happen when we like someone). ✅ In this next video I’m going to explain what chronically-single behaviors (CSBs) are, how they work to block us from true intimacy and connection, and most importantly, how YOU can find and eliminate yours.

We have so many options in the world, for everything. But there’s also more around of what we don’t want. So, our job is to fine-tune our focus on that which makes us truly happy and go with it. This goes for our jobs, our interests, our friends, and of course our sexual and romantic partners. With all the ‘static’ around us from our upbringing, cultural messages, social media, and even our own family and circle of friends, it can be really hard to know what we truly want. Most people don’t take any time out of their busy lives to sit down and think about what—and WHOM—they want in their life. 👀 I've been receiving requests from single gay men who are looking to meet their proper partner and create a real, lasting relationship. If this is you, send me a DM and we'll get clear on your goals and decide if working with me is right for you.

The most skilled carpenter (or plumber, or artist, or architect, you get the idea) won’t get very far without the right set of tools. 🔨 And you can’t succeed at the game if you don’t know the rules. 🔨 Once you’ve identified the chronically-single behaviors (CBSs) that are unconsciously blocking you from connecting with an appropriate partner and you’ve figured-out what you truly want for yourself and your life, you’re ready to go out and make your dream a reality. 🔨 In this video I teach the rules that gay men need to follow in order to achieve healthy vulnerability, allow in real love, meet the man who is their appropriate match, and become #ProperlyPartnered.